“Just be yourself”
You’ve probably heard that from a lot of people, a lot of times, when it came to dating right?
It’s very overused, and it seems too cliche doesn’t it?
And you might have even thought that it was the stupidest advice on dating.
Well, I’m here to tell you that it’s not, and that it’s actually the best dating advice someone can give you. Why? Here’s why:
Being yourself is the best advice, not just in dating, but in everything in life for this one simple reason:
You can’t pretend to be someone you’re not your whole life.
It’s that simple. You gotta be yourself in everything in life, because you can’t pretend to be someone else for the rest of your life. If you did however manage to land a relationship with someone, while acting like someone you’re not, sooner or later your real self is going to pop out aaand it might cause a lot of trouble. Which is bad. Really bad. There’ll be huge conflicts. Lots of confusion. Just bad.
When you first started dating girls, or talking to girls, or boys, or attack helicopters, you probably thought it was cool to act like someone you’re not right? Doing things that you wouldn’t normally do to impress someone, and pretending to be someone who’s way different than who you actually are.
Well it might seem like a good idea at first because you maybe see yourself as someone not ‘worth dating’ or someone who isn’t interesting, or someone that isn’t dating material. Whatever the reason is, it’s always a bad idea to try to pretend like someone you’re not because like I said, the truth always comes out eventually.
You would rather date someone who appreciates you for who you are, and likes you for being YOU, rather than change your true self, just to be with someone else.
Changing your true self just to get someone’s approval is just a simp move. Well unless you’re actually improving and changing your life in a good way, for yourself, and not for someone else.
When you pretend to be someone you’re not, you’re slowly going to lose your real self, bit by bit, and one day you might not even know who you actually are.
So please, don’t pretend to be someone you’re not just to date someone, or get approval. Being yourself is the real deal. It’s what will get you the real ladies, and it’s what will get you the real respect. No one likes fake people. And that ladies and gentlemen is the ultimate dating advice.
Just be yourself.